Life Lately – one month into the fourth trimester
So how is life going lately? Well, we officially celebrated Little Man’s one month of life and one month into the fourth trimester yesterday. Ever heard of that? It is the 12-week period following the birth of your child. It is a time to get to know your new self and your little(s) as well. After all, it is an adjustment for everyone!
To be honest, the adjustment was bigger for me than I thought it would be. I wasn’t prepared for the hormone fluctuations and the difficult emotions I experienced. I loved Lincoln but I felt sad and distressed a LOT / all the time. Breastfeeding was feeling impossible and I experience a lot of negative self-talk and guilt. Baby blues hit incredibly hard to say the least and I did take some questionnaires about postpartum depression/anxiety. The pandemic on top of this did and does not help things obviously.
This isn’t meant to be a doom and gloom post though! I just want to be honest about the feelings I had because when I shared them on Instagram – the outpour of support I received and the validation brought me so much comfort. People I knew and have never meant reached out and shared similar experiences and words of support. I learned that one of the most important things you need during this time is validation. Suggestions and encouragement help too – but just telling someone how you feel and having it validated is everything. It is OK to not be full of overwhelming joy right after having a baby.
The joy came later for me and like many people said, it has gotten better. For me it took about three and a half to four weeks for that feeling…but don’t be discouraged if you’re not there yet. Reach out for support, talk to friends/family AND your doctor, a therapist and especially your partner.
I’ve learned that every thing with a baby is trial and error and trial again. I noticed I really turned a corner when I stopped needing to sleep every time he sleeps. Things are finally feeling more settled (dare I say, patterned!?) and I’m happy to feel more energized throughout the day!
Thinking of energized…I haven’t mentioned yet that today is my thirtieth birthday! I am entering a new decade and even though I didn’t cross of everything from my 30 by 30 list…now I can create a 40 by 40 list! I’ll share it once I’m done and I’ll share something else too. I keep feeling like I’ve got this blog where I want it…and I don’t. I brainstorm a TON and I’ve started too many projects (I have three e-books started without an outline of how to finish them!) without feeling focused. However, I feel at peace with that because I finally have a true sense of where this blog and journey is headed. More importantly, where I am headed.
I hope you’ll stick around with me as this entrepreneurial pursuit continues. This newly made mama and thirty year old is excited about the future and to share it all with you! That’s life lately!