This post is being written during an interesting time in history. Not only am I thirty-eight weeks pregnant with our first, but we’re in the middle of the COVID-19 Pandemic.
It’s changing everyone’s lives in so many different ways and the ripple effects are not to be missed. For Steve and I, we are both home and isolated but still able to work. We are incredibly lucky and I don’t want to not acknowledge that. It doesn’t mean it’s not difficult, but there are plenty of other people who are experiencing much harder times. In a recent post about easy crockpot meals, I added resources which I’ll link to HERE so you can use them yourself or send them to loved ones.
Today though, I want to chat about how the third trimester, weeks 28-40, are going and the things we’re doing to prepare for baby’s arrival! Despite what’s going on, there’s still tons of excitement for us!
My doctors continue to tell me I’m healthy, my blood pressure looks great and to keep up the good work. I have not been as physically active through exercise this trimester and I’ve given myself a lot of grace with that. I try to stretch, strength train when I can and walk as well. I’m still experiencing some serious round ligament pains if I push myself too hard and my back and sciatic nerve issues are hard to deal with.
Aside from that, here are some common questions I’ve gotten and my answers to them.
Are your feet swollen or growing?
No, I’m lucky to not be experiencing any swelling in my hands, feet, ankles, or face.
Are you ready to get your body back?
This question always makes me skeptical. I’m not interested in putting pressure on myself to lose weight. I believe the pressure we get after child birth to “get our body back” is what causes many to struggle with their weight and body image. I am ready for less back aches, more energy, and to experience the joy of becoming of mother.
Are you going to go natural or get pain killers? What’s your birth plan?
This is another interesting question. I don’t think there is an unnatural way to have a baby. To imply to a soon-to-be mom that if she chooses to use medications or not during labor makes her birth “natural” or not…is awful. Every birth experience is different. I’ve taken a birth class with Steve, I’ve read up on medications on non-medicated relief options, and the only “plan” I have is to keep me and baby healthy. It doesn’t mean I want a c-section or not, I just don’t want to stress about having a strict plan.
How are you feeling given that you’re going to give birth during a pandemic?
I’m nervous. I’m nervous to give birth in general even though I’m fully confident that I will give birth – one way or another! Some hospitals in states where the virus is reaching extreme levels are banning spouses from the hospital and that is something I fear. Steve and I have tried to block that possibility so as not to add unnecessary stress. However, we are making plans for a “just in case” scenario. I am also a bit sad because the way I imagined people seeing baby after the birth is going to be different. It doesn’t mean it’s bad, but the new reality verses prior expectations is tough.
Are you hungry all the time?
Not really. I find that if I stay on top of the hunger and eat regular small snacks/meals throughout the day my hunger never gets too aggressive. I don’t have any particular cravings but I’m still all about eggs and though it’s not too different from my norm, I could eat breakfast foods all day long.
Are you tired? How are you sleeping?
Yes, I’m tired and sleeping poorly. Please don’t follow up this question with, “oh get used to it, it doesn’t get better.” I think many people have lost the art of validation. Most people know that a lack of sleep happens with a newborn, you don’t have to remind them of that.
Has anything surprised you during this trimester?
I mean…I could just answer this with the word COVID but aside from that, not much. I tested positive for Group B Strep (GBS) which 25% of all pregnant, healthy women test positive for. It just means I’ll be on antibiotics when I get to the hospital to prevent passing it to baby. I’m not too concerned. I also got a hernia around week twenty that is painful sometimes, but again does not pose as a risk to baby so I’m not too worried about it.
Is the nursery ready?
Yes! I will do a full post with photos of it. It’s very colorful and monster themed and I love it. We’ve made it fun and cozy but we also have prepared other areas of our house for baby. More on that in a coming post!
Do you have a go-bag packed?
We do! We’re only planning on one bag for both Steve and I. Less is more and I figure we will get by if we find we are “missing” something. We’ve got a few outfits for baby and though I’m sad I can’t have visitors at the hospital in the first days after the birth, I’m looking forward to the bonding time for baby, Steve and myself. I find it’s important to look on the bright side or you’ll get sucked into a negative spiral of thoughts and actions to follow.
Are you nesting?
I’m not terribly interested in cleaning excessively. I have been cooking and prepping a LOT of food. I plan to do a full post of everything I’ve cooked, prepped and done from a nutrition stand point to prepare for baby. I even plan to make it a downloadable e-book for you all – FO FREE!
I think that sums it up for now! If you have other questions, feel free to ask them below! Keep us in your thoughts as we approach not only the biggest change in our lives but especially in the midst of what is going on. I cannot wait to meet our little babe and share their birth story with you all. Best wishes!